Losing A Loved One

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. – from an Irish headstone

Breathe.  You sweet, sad, innocent soul.  Deep breaths.  Your beautiful heart is being misled.  You, and every expert & religious leader, have ideas and theories.  But we think you are going through something that only can be explained with provable science.

Have ever thought about caterpillars?

As they make their way, they make friends with ants.  Some caterpillars communicate with their ant protectors by vibrations as well as chemical means and typically provide food rewards.  They develop and important relationship.

Then, the caterpillar becomes a butterfly.

While recent studies prove that moths & butterflies actually remember behavior they learned as caterpillars, there is no proof that ant recognize or are able to continue or make attempts at communicating with their former friend.

Your loved one is a spiritual, and very aware “butterfly” now.  Everything your lost love learned on Earth is still inside him/her now.  Your loved one sees you, helps you, loves you.  Like the ant, you don’t recognize your former love.  You can communicate, just like the ant, but you have to either recognize them… or have faith that they are there.  While you may not be able to receive messages with your “caterpillar” senses, they are being sent.  Your words are also received, understood and loved upon.

Breathe.

Sadly enough, the most painful goodbyes are the ones that are left unsaid and never explained. – Jonathan Harnisch

Grief: Coping with the loss of your loved one – American Psychological Association

Coping With Loss: Bereavement & Grief – Mental Health America

What Is Normal Grieving, and What Are the Stages of Grief? – WebMD